Many people say now that divorce brings freedom. That is no more true than the serpent's promises to Eve (Genesis 3:1-5). Living according God's Word provides the true freedom. If your relationship does not center or focus on God's Word then it will be plagued with consequences. It has taken me 2 marriages to figure this out. Even as I write this blog today the devil is tossing things at me right an left in my own family. It's because the devil knows when you become closer to God, and you are walking by faith, that he must try even harder to destroy your faith. The devil will try to destroy your relationship with God regardless.
Even if you believe your are stuck with a miserable marriage for the rest of your life, take heart. God loves you and wants the best for you. If you trust in the Lord and the principles by which He teaches the satisfaction and joy regardless of the situation will be transformed into a loved filled marriage.
When you feel emotionally distressed the first thing to always remember is that God is aware of your heartache and feels your pain. Remember in the bible how Christ wept with others over the death of Lazarus, even though he knew he was going to raise him from the dead (John 11:35). So, you see God feels the pain you are going through.
When you take a broader look at life it is always the people nearest to us that hurt us the most. The reason we get hurt the most is because we have become emotionally vested in the relationship. If a transient stopped you on the street and said bad things to you it would hurt. However, because you do not have a vested relationship with the transient it doesn't hurt any where near the pain your spouse can cause.
For someone to assume they are justified in leaving a spouse after they reach what they think is a limit or point of no return is a severe mistake. What this has implied is that they have not put any faith in God for a solution to the problems. Unbelief produces anxiety. Faith in God produces peace, regardless of how the relationship turns out. When we really trust and believe in God, He says He will not let us be tried beyond what we can bear (1 Cor 10:13), we will not only be able to endure a trial, but we will benefit from it.
Frequently, our faith is weakened by the lack of a clear conscience (1 Tim 1:19). If we defile our conscience, and refuse to acknowledge or repent of the sin we harbor in our hearts, our faith in God will be weak, and we will be unable to trust Him and enjoy the benefits of His grace. According to (Ephesians 4:26-27) when we cling to anger we give the devil authority in our lives. This usually takes the form of "hurt" or "long-term emotional pain." This creates unbelief which cripples our ability to handle stress. The very anger which we seek to justify is what weakens our emotional endurance.
Don't lose your Joy! When you lose your joy you have lost your strength to overcome the trials and temptations you will face. With Jesus you can overcome any trial, fact, circumstance, situation that life will through at you.
God does not change. He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. You can count on God's Word to help you through ANY situation you may be facing. Put your relationship in God's hands and leave it. It is God's will, not ours.
As anyone who is or has ever been married knows, keeping the marriage alive and strong is tough work. I dare to say that is why we have so many books, therapists, and counselors? The real counselor is Jesus Christ!
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